You say I am Exotic
You mean I am Other
And you are Default
nothing rustles my jimmies as much as having some aspect of my culture, my heritage, my entire being, called “exotic”
This is a general question to all my fellow Asians (but really it applies to most poc I guess): I always get so annoyed whenever others ask me “What kind of Asian” I am, it pisses me off to hear speculations of “Which Asian” I am, too. It’s also weird when people ask ”Where are your parents…
this has always been really interesting to me because I’ve been asked time and time again what an “acceptable” version of the “where are you from” question is. personally, just because I tend to tread carefully around this topic, I would prefer a question like, “what do you identify as, ethnically?” I am ethnically Shanghainese, but I tend to identify myself ethnically as Chinese because it gives me a sense of solidarity with all Chinese people rather than delineating my particular regional affiliation and creating a divide between the North and the South as is prone to happen.
furthermore, I understand that there are often ambiguities in appearance, that it is not so easy to distinguish whether someone is Chinese or Korean or Japanese or multiracial or whatever they may ethnically identify as, but I think asking them to identify themselves first is a good approach, because you avoid assumptions and you allow them space to decide how they want to be perceived and seen.
I hope that makes sense and helps!
don’t come follow a woman of color writer
assume everything she writes
is going to make you comfortable.
isnt going to pierce you skin,
make your stomach fire.
then flood her inbox with messages of how she is hurting you.
i find that wildly presumptious
think before you follow, nayyirah waheed (via nayyirahwaheed)
Making people uncomfortable is political but this space to me personally has provided a release… a motherfucking emotional victory.
I don’t ship jack/emily but this is my favorite a fine frenzy song ;~;